About Me


I am a mother, daughter, girlfriend, friend, manager, and an obsessor of all things hair.  I have always loved hair- my hair, my dolls' hair, other people's hair.  I like to look at different hair textures and styles.  I like to try different hair products.  I could talk about hair all day.

I think my hair type is 4a or 4b.  My hair is not porous at all, so moisturizing it has been my biggest challenge.  My hair strands are fine, but I have a lot of them, so my hair isn't thin.  It can look thin when relaxed or straightened.

After having a relaxer for 24 years, I decided to transition to natural.  I was on a healthy hair journey for 4 years prior to my transition. I learned so much about my hair- what products to use, how to take care of it, stretch my relaxers, etc.- but for a combination of reasons, relaxed hair just wasn't working for me anymore.  My hair grew to the longest length it had ever been (arm-pit length), but wasn't as thick as I wanted it to be.  It was hard for me to keep my hair moist.  The longer it got, the worse it looked to me.

I remember my mother, her sister, and my father's sisters telling me that once they reached a certain age, their hair just couldn't tolerate relaxers anymore.  I think the older I get, the more sensitive my hair is to chemicals.

I truly thought that I would have a relaxer forever.  I never considered myself brainwashed, but maybe I was/am.  I remember when I was a child, I used to wish for bouncy hair like the white women I saw on tv.  I begged my mother to get a relaxer when I was 13.  Since I hadn't seen my natural hair since I was a child, I didn't even know what my natural texture was.  I also wanted to see if I had the courage and discipline to do it.

My reasons for going natural:

* I want healthy, thick hair.
* I want to know and be able to manage my natural texture.
* I don't want to be dependent on stylists/salons anymore.
* I want big hair.
* I want other women (and ME) to see that kinky is beautiful.

I did the big chop on June 30, 2012.  My hair grows in a very tight "S" pattern.  Because my hair is very dry and not porous, it's hard for my natural curls to form.  My first year as a natural was challenging and frustrating, but I've gotten to the point where I know how to keep my hair moisturized, and I'm starting to love my locs!  Even when I'm frustrated with my hair, I still feel positive and excited about the journey ahead.  Not once have I regretted getting rid of my relaxed hair!

Tiffanita's hair do's:
* Consistent deep conditioning WITH HEAT
* Moisturizing spray of water, leave-in and oil
* Shampoo
* Sleeping with a satin scarf or on a satin pillowcase

Tiffanita's hair don'ts:
* Henna - I think this helped ruin my relaxed and natural hair.  Not great for low porosity hair. It caused extreme dryness and some breakage.
* Aloe vera juice (avj) - another product that its not for low porosity hair.
* Extreme heat styling - I got heat damage from getting my natural hair straightened just one time.
* Co-Washing - it's good when I'm washing my hair more than once a week, but my scalp needs shampoo once a week to get it clean.

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